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JUNK BONDS
Q. What is a junk bond?
A. You love, put on a pedestal, someone
who don't
love
you, worshipping at the altar of rejection. The more you can't get
love, the more you keep trying, believing that they're perfect,
something's wrong with you.
Q. Why do you call it a junk bond?
A. On Wall Street it’s a high-risk stock market venture with huge potential loss.
Here it’s a tie that’s blind and binds, guaranteed to hurt, harm, damage, based on, well, junk. You put someone who’s unavailable, unobtainable, rejecting, crazy on a pedestal. You reject anyone who loves you. It’s an inverted, perverted equation: rejection equals love, conversely, love equals rejection.
rejection = love, conversely, love = rejection
ARE YOU IN A JUNK BOND?
Take these two quizzes quickly.
Do you ever know where you stand with_______?
Do you feel you can’t please _____no matter what?
Is ______behavior inconsistent...you never know what to expect?
If _____does something for you, do you have to pay for it?
Can you be honest with ______?
Do you feel defensive all the time, as if you’re going to be attacked?
Do you feel that somehow you’re always wrong, can’t ever win?
Do you do it _______’s way from fear of disapproval, consequences?
Are you afraid of _____?
Does _______ever hug you? Does ______criticize you daily? Is_______ supportive?
Do you feel like crying...upset when you’re around______?
Are your conversations with ______ composed of threats?
Are you afraid to talk with _______about your troubles, feelings, problems, fears?
Does _____treat you like a child?
Do you fight with _______constantly?
Does _____ insult you, put you down, show lack of interest in your life?
Does _____constantly scold you, tell you how many things you do wrong?
Does ____want to change you?
Do you overdo (drink, smoke, eat) when you’re with _____ or after you’ve seen him/her?
Do you feel bad, depressed, angry, crazy, numb, stressed, rejected, sick after seeing ____?
Add up your yeses, the more yeses, the more powerful the junk bond.
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ARE YOU IN A JUNK BOND?
He wants what he wants when he wants it no matter what you want.
He’s interested in talking about him, forget you.
He’s unreliable, inconsistent, keeps you guessing.
You can’t count on him. You never know when or if he’s going to call, show up, be there.
He criticizes you, is a put down artist.
He controls all the money, fulfills his needs, ignores yours.
He has control over bed, makes all the decisions about sex, fulfills his needs, ignores yours.
He’s physically violent.
You never know what to expect, where you stand.
He’s incapable of dealing with, talking about or coping with the truth.
He’s got problems, is always depressed.
He’s a drug addict, pot head, alcoholic, gambler, overeater, shopaholic, workaholic,____ .
You’re afraid of him.
He’s got to be in the driver’s seat, in total control. Spontaneity scares him to death.
He’s mysterious, secretive. You don’t understand him.
You’re always waiting by the phone.
The
bad news: If there's just one yes, let alone two or three, you're in a
junk bond.
The good news: You
can get over it.
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